6B原则:保持隽永的热恋般感觉

　　1. Be funny. 情趣Kind-spirited humor can douse¹ a hot argument, head off a fight, and turn the drudgery² of household responsibilities and planning into something witty³, smart, and hilarious⁴. Stick with warm humor; sarcasm⁵ and snide remarks aren't relationship-builders.

　　善意的玩笑可以缓和争吵,平息争斗,还能把家务缠身的苦差变成一种诙谐、智慧和欢笑。当然玩笑要适度,讽刺挖苦有损感情地培养。

　　2. Be kissy. 亲吻Saluting⁶ your spouse⁷ with a longer-than-usual kiss in the morning, at the end of the workday, and before you say good night telegraphs the good news that you still find him or her irresistible⁸ and wonderful.

　　清晨醒来,下班回家,以及晚上睡前,献给爱人一个比以往更长更久的吻。这时你便会发现,爱人在你的眼里还是那样的难以抗拒和充满魅力。

　　3. Be appreciative⁹. 欣赏You can never appreciate your spouse too much. He or she needs to hear how much you admire the way he or she gets the bills paid, organizes the kids' activities, made that tasty shrimp¹⁰ scampi last night, rewired the basement, cleared out three months' worth of old magazines from beside the couch, or got the trash out to the curb¹¹ just in time for pickup¹².

　　再怎么称赞你的爱人都不为过。当他(她)把账单付清,当他(她)组织了一场孩子的活动,当他(她)做完烹制出美味的奶油蒜味虾,或者当他(她)把地下室的电线重新接好,当他(她)把沙发旁积累了三个月的旧杂志清理干净,当他(她)出门倒垃圾正好赶上垃圾车的时候,爱人都需要听到你的赞美之词。

　　4. Be surprising. 惊喜Bring home an unexpected little gift. Get the car serviced before he changes the oil. Deliver breakfast in bed next Saturday (then pop a Looney Tunes¹³ DVD into the TV for the kids and lock your bedroom door).

　　带回家一个意想不到的小礼物。趁他做汽车保养之前把机油换好。下个周六给孩子们放《巨星总动员》的DVD,然后把爱人的早餐端到床前,并锁上卧室的门。

　　5. Be historical. 回味Play the songs you two loved best when you were courting. Bring out your wedding album after dinner and leaf through it together. Bring up the good times from your past--you'll both get a glow and feel lifted up as you remember your passion.

　　播放你俩恋爱时最爱听的歌曲。晚餐后拿出结婚相册,一起梳理过去的时光。回忆过去美好的点点滴滴——往昔的激情能让现下的你们暖意融融,心潮澎湃。

　　6. Be forgetful. 忘却Forgive your spouse's human shortcomings, then forget them. Nobody's perfect, especially under stress. (Hmmm ... could that include you?) Graciously overlooking flaws, errors, and gaffes¹⁴ sets a sweetly gracious tone for your relationship.原谅你的爱人作为一个人而不能避免的缺点,并且忘记它们。人无完人,尤其是处于压力之下的人更难免犯错。(嗯......你也应该是这样吧?)优雅地忽略这些缺点、错误和丑态,继而为你俩的关系奠定一个甜蜜且温馨的基调。

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