坏习惯-责备(6)

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Eradicating¹ these bad habits

 

改掉坏习惯

 

Blaming.

 

责备

 

We need to feel in control of our lives in order tobe happy, which is why blaming is so incompatible² with happiness. When youblame other people or circumstances for the bad things that happen to you,you've decided³ that you have no control over your life, which is terrible foryour mood.

 

为了快乐，我们需要对生活有掌控权，这也就是为什么责备和幸福之间彼此不相容。当你因为坏事发生在自己身上而责备别人或是环境时，就决定了你对生活没有掌控权，这对你的情绪是很糟糕的。

 

Complaining.

 

抱怨

 

Complaining is troubling, as well as the attitudethat precedes it. Complaining is a self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking -- and therefore thinking -- about how bad things are, you reaffirmyour negative beliefs.

 

和前面的几种态度一样，抱怨让人烦恼。抱怨是一种自我强化的表现，通过不停地说和想事情有多么的坏，你重申了自己的消极信念。

 

While talking about what bothers you can help youfeel better, there’s a fine line between complaining being therapeutic⁴ and itfueling unhappiness. Beyond making you unhappy, complaining drives other peopleaway.

 

谈论困扰你的事情可以让你感觉好一些，这和抱怨被治疗有微妙的区别，后者助长了不快乐。除了让你不开心，抱怨也会让其他人远离你。

 

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