四种方法让你更幸福

　　This quest of mine wasn’t going very well. Ah, sitting around trying to figure out the timeless questions! As a matter a fact, it was making me feel even worse. What if I’ll never be able to figure it out, I wondered. Clearly I just needed more time to contemplate¹.

　　At that very moment, my thoughts were interrupted by a doorbell. My next door neighbor stopped by to ask me for a hand in his yard. I reluctantly agreed. After all, what could be more important than pondering life’s greatest mysteries? Lazily, I assisted him with his work in hope of quickly returning back to my thoughts.

　　However the work gradually drew me in, and I found myself actually starting to enjoy it. The thoughts which clouded my mind most of the day dissipated. My attention was now entirely² in the moment. As my mind became clear of thoughts, I found myself at peace and happy!

　　A few hours later, as work came to an end, my body cried with fatigue³, while my heart celebrated⁴ the satisfaction of the accomplishment⁵. Suddenly I broke out in laughter, realizing that once again life taught me a valuable lesson!

　　I was standing⁶ in the yard covered in sweat and dirt, with a grin on my face. I saw that happiness cannot be the direct goal in itself. Happiness can only be achieved as the result of other actions. One does not wake up in the morning claiming happiness as the day’s goal. Happiness and joy are born from love, compassion⁷ and benevolence⁸.

　　Happiness Through Giving

　　There is a beautiful energy emanating⁹ from offering service and giving. This energy is expansive. It stimulates¹⁰ others to continue the gift of giving. Offer selfless service and giving, without any expectation of a reward. The rewards is in the act of giving itself.

　　Giving, does not have to be limited to material objects in nature. It can be through giving of your time and attention. Offering comfort, listening and supporting, are all gifts that are much needed and appreciated. It is only when we offer ourselves to others, can we experience true happiness and satisfaction.

　　Happiness Through Acceptance

　　In terms of happiness, acceptance plays two roles. The first, is the general acceptance of your life for what it is. It’s having what the Buddhism¹¹ refers to as “the beginners mind”. It’s the practice of acceptance that is devoid¹² of judgement and criticism. In order to be happy, let go of the control, and trust in the Higher Power to guide you to your destiny.

　　The second role is to practice acceptance of the gifts that are offered to you. It’s to understand the cycle of giving and receiving. Giving is a form of energy. If the gift is denied, the energy associated with the spirit of that gift is also blocked. For it to be fully¹³ effective, the gift must be received and reciprocated¹⁴.

　　Happiness Through Detachment

　　Detachment has been practiced in ancient cultures for a millennia¹⁵, and it leads us to freedom from ourselves. Attaching our emotions to an outcome of an event, will only lead to disappointment. Practice healthy detachment. Keep in mind that letting go, is much more rewarding than accumulating. This includes detachment from objects, outcomes and emotions.

　　Happiness Through Peace

　　The state of happiness is undoubtedly¹⁶ a powerful, uplifting emotion. It is however of impermanent nature, as are all strong emotions. I would much rather live a lifetime in a state of peace, than experience moments of intense happiness alternated with sorrow. Engage in activities such as meditation¹⁷ to calm down the mind and develop a peaceful state of being.

　　In Conclusion

　　I find that love, acceptance and giving, are the paths that lead to happiness. Happiness is the culmination¹⁸ of these qualities, and not their cause. If you’re looking for happiness, then you need to engage in creating the environment that will lead you to it. To summarize it, put happy in, get happy out!

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