研究显示 和老板关系太铁也很危险

　　和老板的关系不好会制造出各种焦虑。但是事实证明，一段亲密而舒适的关系也一样压力重重--有时甚至更糟。

　　Gabby Sullivan, a design professional in northern California, in the US, knows first-hand how stressful it can be. Sullivan and her boss were close friends, work partners and even shared the same position, until he got promoted.

　　加贝·沙利文是美国加利福尼亚州北部的一名专业设计人员，她最知道这样的压力有多大。沙利文和她的老板是亲密的朋友和工作伙伴，在老板晋升之前，他们还享有同样的职位。

　　Sullivan felt he now seemed to hold her to a higher standard than he did everyone else and accused her of not following his chain of command. Then came grumblings from colleagues that Sullivan was receiving preferential treatment. It was a no-win situation.

　　沙利文觉得，如今的老板对自己的标准比其它任何人都要高，并且指责她不遵守自己的一系列命令。随后，同事间怨声四起，说沙利文正在受到特殊待遇。这是个输透了的局面。

　　Meanwhile, outside of work, their friendship also changed, and the two rarely saw each other anymore.

　　与此同时，工作之余，他们的友情也发生了变化，他们很少再见面了。

　　研究显示 和老板关系太铁也很危险

　　When they did, Sullivan found herself giving short, succinct² answers and not wanting to engage in casual conversation.

　　当他们见面时，沙利文觉得自己的回答短小简洁，不想进行正常谈话。

　　The situation became so stressful that Sullivan ended up taking a two-month leave of absence just to "detach³" and take a break from it all.

　　这个局面让人倍感压力，沙利文甚至想要离开工作两个月，把自己"剥离"出来，休息一下。

　　"It was really uncomfortable for a really long time," she says.

　　她说："很长一段时间以来，这真的让人很不舒服。"

　　"During times of change, in physically⁴ challenging situations and in moral dilemmas⁵, having a particularly strong relationship with one's supervisor⁶ can add to the pressure employees feel," says Jeremy, associate professor of management at San Diego State University, in an email.

　　圣地亚哥州立大学管理学副教授杰里米在一封邮件中说道："在关系的改变期，人们深陷心理挑战和道德困境中，员工和自己的主管拥有特别深厚的关系会增加雇员的压力。"

　　Of course, there is nothing wrong with strong relationships with your boss, at least in the short run, says Berlin-based Konstantin, director of European School of Management and Technology Centre for Leadership Development Research.

　　欧洲管理和技术领导发展研究中心主任康斯坦丁表示，当然，和你的老板关系铁没有什么错，至少短期看来是这样。

　　But, "in the long run, such a situation can lead to fatigue⁷, cynicism, or disappointment on the part of the employee," he says by email.

　　但是，他在邮件中说到："从长远来看，这种情况可能导致员工疲劳、愤世嫉俗或失望。"

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